Saturday, 23 January 2016

We're not all party animals

When I talk to my family about university, they immediately ask how often I go out partying and what's the craziest story that's happened to me. I then reply with very vague and very boring answers usually along the line of, "oh, I don't actually go out that much".

Society has given students this image of being crazy, reckless, always drunk or hungover and generally party animals who pretend to look after themselves. What people don't realise is that university is so different from that. Okay, so you do get your party animals, but in my experience, these are definitely the minority. 

University life is so much more than drinking and having nights out. It's tough. Like really tough. It's constantly comparing yourself to others, it's stressing about an essay that in a years time won't matter any more. It's not being able to take a night off or do other things without constantly thinking about doing work. University is such an controlling environment. Even living off campus and with my best friends, you never not think about that piece of reading you should be doing, or that essay that needs writing. The pressure of that life gets to you - I should be doing more, because someone else is. The university bubble makes it seem like it is the end of the world if you get a bad grade or if you don't get all the reading done. It can consume your life. 

I've said it before, but I'm not loving my course any more. It was the right decision at the time, but if I could stay with all my friends and keep doing all the extras that I never dreamed of doing when I started, I would probably quit my degree right now. Whilst I'm sad to be leaving in a few months, I can't wait until the pressure is off. I know the working world isn't a doddle, but the idea of coming home and potentially forgetting about work until the next day is something that I am looking forward too.

This isn't a woe is me, I'm in my final year and I'm feeling stressed post (OK, so maybe it is a little). It's a recognition that whilst on the outside university life seems like a doss, and an easy ride, it's not at all. It's so so much more than that. 



  1. Finally someone who understands! When I was at Uni there was always that pressure to go out and party, but I was like why? I don't want to. That's not for me, I have exams and essays to ace. I'm so glad someone agrees with me!
    Steph x.

  2. My course is quite different to others, so partying all the time isn't really an option for me! I can't go out midweek, and by the time weekend comes around, all I want is a bit of time off to relax
    Jennifer x
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  3. I know what you mean. I've just started my second degree and whilst working full-time is exhausting, i'd much rather be doing that than this. I love coming home after work and switching off! x

    Amy at Amy & More

  4. Love this! I feel the exact same. I live so far from my college and I have to commute every day. By the time my day is over I am exhausted from being up early, travelling in and working that I can't wait to just get home to bed, I don't know how people can go out all the time in uni, It takes me a week to recover from one night out haha x

    The Ambii Smiley.

  5. I feel exactly the same, I'm not a party animal either, so found it quite difficult to party all the time at Uni. I've deferred a year now, as I couldn't hack 3rd year so having a break hahah. Good luck in your studies! x

  6. Great post, I loved partying in first year, but after that my want to do so dropped off. I even got quite a lot of slack for it from people in my friendship group who I love dearly, but had such a stereotypical view of uni, which was a shame! You just do you. I finished university last year, and I can say that the working world has its challenges, but it's definitely easier (for my job role anyway) to come home, and switch off. Keep going, you're nearly there! It's all worthwhile in the end.

    Suitcase and Sandals Blog XXX

  7. I can completely relate to you (though it's been a few years since I was actually at university.) I didn't live in halls or with friends but at home with my parents. I didn't really want to go out partying, as it just wasn't for me. Sometimes I feel like I might have missed out on the fun side of university but it wasn't really why I was there and looking back I think I was suffering with quite a lot of anxiety issues at the time, making it hard for me to connect with others and make friends. Like you I also ended up really disliking my course but wanted to see it through to the end. If it helps at all, you will definitely feel like it's all worth it come graduation day! I was so proud of myself, not just for getting a 2:1 but persevering with a course and getting through university as a whole. Good luck lovely xx


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