Saturday, 10 November 2018

Things I've Learnt Living In A House Share




1. You'll question humanity multiple times, especially around dinner time when you want to use the nice pan but someone hasn't washed it up since last weekend.

2. You'll cave eventually and do everyone's washing up but grumble constantly and send a passive aggressive whatsapp message about it.

3. Talking is often the best way to get anything solved, but surely you shouldn't have to tell someone to clean out the sink of rice, right?

4. You can actually make some friends and in all seriousness, it's a great way to meet people when you move somewhere new.

5. You'll actually be sad when someone leaves. How dare they have any other people to hang out with and move in with their boyfriend?

6. I've learnt to sleep through quite a lot of noise, except the noisy gamer housemate who 'forgets that you're in the house' when he's shouting at his World Of Warcraft game at 3am.

7. You'll silently judge each person who comes around to view an empty room. They had better be house trained.

8. You'll come to the realisation that the house is, and always will be a little bit shitty, but the idea of scouring Spareroom and having to move again is a bit too much effort.

9. There'll always be some sort of weird substance in the sink / some weird smell in the fridge / some strange food cooking.

10. Don't expect anyone to do any cleaning up..ever


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Sunday, 4 November 2018

The Quarter Life Crisis



Well.. it's been a while.

I've been getting a little wrapped up in my own life. Things were getting comfortable. I live a pretty simple life. I have a few great friends, I spend most of my Friday nights in and I love going home to visit my mum every other weekend and spending my Sundays trying new recipes. But now, I've stuck a spanner in the works.

I've been offered, and I've accepted, a new job in London.

London used to be the plan for me. But lately, I've been questioning, and there has been a lot of crying, about whether my move is the right decision. My new job, if all goes swimmingly, will be great for my career. I feel very lucky to get it and the advice of all my work colleagues, friends and family say that this is an opportunity not to be wasted.

So for the third time in three years, I'm moving again and going into the unknown.

Looking for places to live was interesting and has been my main source of anxiety. Where do you even start? I had experience with spareroom, but rooms in London seemed to come and go in the blink of an eye. I tried to get some experience from friends, but ultimately couldn't work out how people survive in London.

So, I've settled to being a lodger in a family home just outside of London. It's a cheaper option and the commute in should be, door to door, under an hour. I'll just have to get used to living and staying in someone else's home.

But if I don't live in central London, will I be missing out on the London experience? Do I even want the London experience. Will I ever save any money. Will I ever feel safe? Honestly, why am I doing this to myself.

I have three weeks until I start my new job. I'm petrified. What if they regret their decision, what if I can't do it or feel overwhelmed by the pace in London? I anticipate it's going to be very different. I mean do people even bring their own packed lunch to work? I jolly well hope so because I can't afford to buy lunch everyday.

I guess until I get there I won't know what the deal is. I'm still questioning is this what I want. But then, I think I've got the rest of my life to feel comfortable and to spend my days weekends baking and cooking. If I don't do this at 24, I'm never going to do it.

So, here we go. I'm moving (again), moving on up and trying something new. And if 6 months down the line I hate it, at least I gave it a go.



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Saturday, 28 April 2018

Shit Happens... let's play a game about it


I love moaning about adult life, and when I'm not moaning about adult life, I do love a night in with a few drinks playing a board game. Now, I do enjoy a good game of Cards Against Humanity, especially with a few drinks involved with my house mates, or even my family, so when I was asked to try this new game, Shit Happens, I was instantly intrigued.

The game has 200 cards, or Shitty Situation Cards which each has an event that could happen. They rank from something minor like stepping on lego or your mum complaining about her sex life, to more problematic scenarios like learning your partner is your first cousin and being buried alive.

They are apparently ranked by a panel of 'qualified grown ups'. I can't say I agree with all of the rankings, personally I think losing my laptop or a partner screaming an ex's name during sex would be disastrous, but that's kind of the fun of it too.


To start the game, you pick three cards randomly to start off your 'Lane Of Pain' in numerical order. One player picks up a card, reads the shitty situation and the player to your right has to guess where the card will go in their lane of pain lineup. Guess it right you win the card, guess it wrong and it goes to the next person and so on. If you win a card, you add it to your line up and the game ends when someone gets 10 cards in their lineup.

It actually took us a while for anyone to win any cards as some cards were surprising with their scoring, but maybe I am not a totally qualified adult like the ones who picked the ratings! The game got a lot harder with the more cards you win, as trying to predict where they would come up in your lineup was difficult when some ratings were so close together. We did actually have quite a giggle with some of the scenarios which were totally bonkers.

This is a fun idea for a game, and a great starter to a pre drinks (or a night in like us!) in a house share or university halls. If you're looking for a new card game to add to your growing stash, this is a good one to try, and you can realise, or reaffirm, how shitty adult life is at the same time.

Thank you Cheatwell games for providing me with the game to play and try out - you can buy the game here.


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Monday, 9 April 2018

The Graduate Diaries | Two Years On...


Maybe I should start calling The Graduate Diaries, The Adulting Diaries because I still feel like I am trying to navigate life after university.

This stage of life is very strange, and no one really prepares you for it at all. There are some friends who are moving in with their boyfriends / girlfriends, some married, some pregnant, some still in university, some in amazing jobs and some who are still struggling two years on to find something permanent.

I need to remember that everyone has different timelines and everyone wants different things. There is no one size fits all for life after university. Not only are you adjusting to moving back home, or moving somewhere completely new, you're losing the safety university life. For me, adapting to the working world, was a massive step, and is much harder than it imagined.

The last seven months in my second job have been an eye opening experience. I've had to grow up, take risks and speak up more than I have ever had to do before. I'm given real responsibility and have to bear the consequences if things go wrong. I have to balance working professional relationships, personal relationships whilst trying to eat healthily, fit in some form of exercise (because that's what adults seem to be able to do) and resist the urge to buy homeware I definitely don't need. So things could be a lot worse, I don't have a family or people who are dependant on me to have to think about, but even then, the thing with different time lines is that I see other people achieving different things.

I also think that social media in your post-university timeline is really interesting. During university, posting selfies, pre-drink poses and club photos was seen as the done thing, to show everyone what an amazing time you are having. You don't post about all the times you were in the library, stressing over an essay or dissertation. I feel that with a lot of my friends, and even my self, you have to show yourself in working life that you can have it all - a relationship, friendships, eat healthily and have a job. Bonus points if your job is something really exciting. It's like we're all trying to prove that we can do it and function. It isn't until you see those people in real life where you realise that things aren't all as they seem. They're having problems living at home, they hate their job or they just broke up with someone and not taking it well.

I don't really know where I'm going with this, but talking to a lot of my friends who are graduating this summer and friends who I haven't seen for a long time, that there is no one way to navigate life after university. It's hard, you'll feel lonely, you'll feel like you're falling behind whilst simultaneously feeling ahead.  You'll sometimes crumble under the pressure of adult life and adult responsibilities, but you'll also thrive and grow more as a person. Start focusing on yourself - self care is so important in whichever way you find best, surround yourself with supportive people, but come out of your comfort zone every once in a while. Everyone's still learning. We can do it.







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Sunday, 25 February 2018

4 Podcasts I Have Listened To In February


Podcasts have definitely replaced reading this month. After feeling uninspired with my walk to work playlist, I decided to get back into podcasts, and I turn up to work feeling so inspired every time. I love the idea of women, talking about things that concern them, having interesting conversations, and realising that you can't all agree on everything.

There are also some brilliant ones out there for blogging and generally business and careers. Working in a creative industry, I feel so inspired by super creative people talking about their experiences. Here are a few I have been listening to this month:

1. The Fringe Of It

Hosted by Liv Purvis and Charlotte Jacklin, they're on podcast chemistry is so great, it's like listening to two friends having a lovely conversation over a cup of tea, nattering about what TV they are watching and what they have bought recently. I think I also loved it so much because the first episode was all about Friendship and being lonely as an adult, ideas of what to do and how to get out there. Of course, this is highly relevant to my life right now. The second episode was equally as good and I can't wait for more!

2. Blogtacular

This one is more career focused, not only to bloggers but also for people in creative industries. Hosted by Kat Molesworth, the podcast covers things from branding, creativity, careers and interviews with bloggers. This is the perfect podcast if you're feeling uninspired creatively and to hear about the amazing things that people are doing and achieving. The most recent episode I listened to was one about GDPR which was so helpful and useful, especially in my job as I work with customer data on a regular basis.


3. Get It Off Your Breasts

I have been a fan of Emma Gannon's for a while - I love her writing style and her own podcast Ctrl Alt Delete. Co-hosted by Lliana Bird, the first series of this podcast has amazing interviews with brilliant women about issues that are 'on their breasts' with topics relevant in the media, online and general feminism. I can't wait for the next series, that is apparently coming soon! I loved the episode with Konnie Huq, talking parenthood, millennials and sleep(!). It felt like a proper conversation, with each having their own views and experiences which made it very interesting listening.

4. Courage Makers

I have listened to a few of these episodes and it is so positive and inspiring. Hosted by Meg Kissack, I've also been exploring her site thathummingbirdlife which is also equally as positivity filled. The latest one I listened to was with Amy Parker where they talked about her word of the year, 'Joy', and documenting your life. It was just wonderful to listen to, and Meg seems equally as lovely and gave me a lovely tweet back when I let her know how much I loved the podcast.







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Wednesday, 21 February 2018

2 No Lettuce Salad Lunches




Let's just take a moment to look at my new insanely cute lunch box. If this doesn't scream 'adult' in the fridge at work, I don't know what does.

In an attempt to switch up my lunch away from boring sandwiches, I've taken to the internet to find some healthy alternatives that pack in some fruit and veg (which I was seriously lacking). And the best part is, they don't require any watery iceberg lettuce or dark leaves, which I find too strong, making them actually enjoyable to eat and will fill you up.

Chickpea & Feta

This first one was a result of a Pinterest search after looking for a use for a tin of chickpeas I picked up and didn't know what to do with them.

I usually have a third or half a tin per serving, and mix with cucumber cubes, plum tomatoes and feta (lots!). I then added some Caesar dressing and some salt and pepper and left it in the fridge overnight to let it soak in some juices as it definitely tastes better after being left overnight. Sometimes I will add avacado if I have one or I have been also taking a flatbread so that it keeps me fuller.



Tuna & Greek Yogurt

This one is a little more creamy and filling than the last. To a tin of tuna, I'll add cucumber, plum tomatoes and - my housemates find this quite controversial - chopped apple and raisins. I then add a few spoonfuls of low fat greek yoghurt, which I bought in this massive tub from Lidl, just enough to make it stick together.

I have been having this in wraps, but I have also taken it to work by itself. The apples and raisins give it a sweetness which I love, and the greek yogurt is a great alternative for mayo, which I would usually have with tuna.



I have been rotating the two since January, and I feel so damn good knowing that I have got quite a few of my five a day out of the way. Yes, it requires a little more effort than chucking a piece of ham on some bread and cutting it in half, but I look forward to lunch times now - aka the best part of the working day other than home time. The key is definitely taking 10 minutes to make them the night before, making your mornings a dream.







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Saturday, 10 February 2018

F.R.I.E.N.D.S Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations Of Adult Life


So no one told you life was gonna be this way.

I am starting to feel pretty lonely. I've always been a homebody, when I am very rarely out, I desperately want to make my excuses to get back home. But then when I'm home I want to be around people again.

This isn't always the case. I love being by myself, doing things for me, and not having to deal with other people, but sometimes, I wish I had my support network with me. In my post about the life lessons my friends taught me, it made me realise how much I value, cherish and love my friends. But living miles away from them is pretty tough.

And that's where Friends comes into all of this. Watching it as a 13/14 year old who definitely didn't understand a lot of the jokes, I couldn't wait for adult life. Living out your twenties with a group of friends who hung around in coffee shops, had dinner together, who went out on new dates every week and gossiping about it afterwards was what I always wanted.

I'm at a point now where I have come to terms with life definitely not being like that. And sometimes, actually most of the time, I'm okay with it, but sometimes I'm not.

Whilst I have great and lovely housemates, we rarely spend a weekend together. We value each other's alone time, and many of them have partners or work colleagues they see. I don't have those other people outside the house to hang out with. That's the problem with moving somewhere new, or even moving home after university.

And how do you even make friends as an adult anyway? I tried going into the staff room at work today in the hope to meet some new people. It was a total fail. There wasn't many people coming in or out, and if they did, we sat, in silence on our phones. I'm desperately looking for an activity to get involved with, hopefully things will get easier when it stops being so dark after work.

Yes, my life's a joke, I'm broke, and my love life's DOA, but I'm finding adult life to be a little lonely.

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